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INTRODUCTION: WHO WROTE YOUR STORY?

Most people don’t realise that the script they are living by is not one they authored. Like an actor reciting lines from a dusty screenplay, they move through life—one that may be generations old—with a quiet sense of misalignment, performing roles they didn’t choose and speaking lines they never questioned.

As children, we are handed scripts—some whispered, others thundered—by parents, culture, school systems, churches, and society. These scripts shape our identity before we ever develop the maturity to say, “This is not who I am.” But here’s the gospel: You can parent yourself now. You can co-author your life with God.

Funny thing is, we intuitively know that what we are being told is not correct; we can feel it going against the grain if something much deeper, truer and authentic somewhere deep within us. Yet, we brush off these intuitions as fiction be cause after all those who “parent us” say something else.

To begin reevaluating our core “beliefs”, we must recover the inner child in the light of Gods’ revealed truth (Psalm 119:105)—not to indulge it, but to re-parent it in truth, compassion, and authority.

The “inner child” is not just a pop-psychology concept; it is a spiritual terrain where lies were seeded, identities were distorted, and divine image was buried under fear, shame, and false loyalty.

Let’s journey through the Word (God’s truth), and the psyche to expose the inherited limiting scripts—and learn how to rewrite them, by faith.

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THE INNER CHILD AND THE ORPHAN SPIRIT

From a theological standpoint, the concept of the inner child overlaps with what Scripture calls the orphan spirit—a soul estranged from the Father’s voice, shaped by the voices of Pharaoh, Babylon, and Saul.

These systems raise us to believe who we are, what we can expect and where we belong. Identity tells us not only who we are, but how we thrive or just, survive. A wrong identity will keep us believing that a higher level of living is out of our reach because we do not qualify for some arbitrary reason. The problems are never really the problems. While we make believe they are external, the real issues are internal. The challenges we face in the world are a direct result of what we believe ourselves, the world and God. Consider this verse,

“Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, even as it goes well with your soul.” – 3 John 1:2

SCRIPTURAL FOUNDATIONS

“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.” – John 14:18

“As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” – Proverbs 23:7

“According to your faith be it unto you.” – Matthew 9:29

These verses are not mere encouragements; they are blueprints.

The orphan spirit is marked by striving, fear of rejection, and deep-seated shame—that insidious and subtle sense of being unworthy.

This false identity believes it is unworthy of belonging or divine inheritance. But the Spirit of God re-parents us through truth and grace (Romans 8:15-17) as we cooperate, restoring what we never received in childhood: affirmation, discipline, unconditional love, and permission to be who God made us to be.

Although we were originally made in Gods’ image with divine identity, that image has often been corrupted, and we have been remade into the image of our parents, teachers, and a broken society.

ETYMOLOGY: “PARENT” AND “CHILD”

The word parent comes from Latin parere, meaning “to bring forth.” The same root is found in transparent (“to shine through”) and apparent (“to be made visible”). A true parent doesn’t merely provide; they reveal what is already there—God given identity and purpose.

The Hebrew word for child is yeled (יֶלֶד), from the root yalad (ילד) meaning “to be born” or “to bear forth.”

Interestingly, the same root is used in Isaiah 9:6: “Unto us a child is born…”—pointing prophetically to the one who re-authors all identities.

That is, we should grow from the inside outward, instead we are told to look without and change what is within to conform—but remember, the world is lost, broken and dysfunctional.

To conform to the world is to mirror the world’s lostness, brokenness, and dysfunction.

That is what Scripture clearly states,

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
– Romans 12:2 (ESV)

And also,

“And we all, with unveiled face looking into a mirror, behold the glory of the Lord, and are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. And this is by the Spirit of the lord.” — 2 Corinthians 3:18

The “mirror” spoken of here is Gods’ word,

“For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like. But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres—being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts—he will be blessed in his doing.” – James 1:23-25

Being who God made you to be happens when we “remember“ again who we are, it is divine recognition when we see ourselves described in Scripture.

It is out of this divine recognition that we begin conducting ourselves.

If parenting means “bringing forth,” then to parent yourself is to bring forth the true you, hidden under years of lies, fear, and mimicry.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”

The true self—the spirit-man created in the image of God—has never been truly parented by the world, because the world only trains slaves, not sons and daughters.

Identity determines behaviour. You will never rise higher than the identity you have accepted as true.

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THE OLD SCRIPT: OBEDIENCE WITHOUT DISCERNMENT

From our earliest memories, we internalise commands dressed as love, shame disguised as guidance, and rules confused with identity. These phrases become embedded beliefs:

• “You’re too sensitive.”
• “Stop dreaming. Be realistic.”
• “Good boys don’t cry.”
• “God will punish you.”
• “Money is evil.”
• “You’ll always be like your father.”

These statements operate like spells (*in Hebrew, ḥeber, חבר, can mean both “binding” and “association”)—they tie your identity to trauma, performance, or silence.

They bind your soul, not your body, which is why many adults carry invisible chains long after they’ve moved out of their childhood homes.

The Bible describes this spiritual state vividly:

“You wearied yourself with your many counsels… but there is no one to save you.” – Isaiah 47:13-14

The world raised you to be manageable, not powerful. Predictable, not prophetic. Safe, not sovereign. But God is not recruiting extras for a religious drama—He is calling forth co-authors of a kingdom uprising.

RE-PARENTING: WHAT IT MEANS AND HOW TO DO IT

1. IDENTIFY THE FALSE SCRIPT

Take inventory. Write down the names, phrases, and systems that shaped your early identity. Ask yourself:

• What labels have I worn without questioning?
• What emotional reactions feel “childish” or disproportionate?
• What fears govern my choices?

These questions expose the roots of inner bondage.

2. SPEAK TO THE INNER CHILD WITH TRUTH

Speak aloud to your younger self. You are the adult now. You are safe to correct the narrative. Jesus often addressed people not based on their current behaviour but on their divine identity: “Daughter, your faith has healed you” (Mark 5:34).

This is homología (ὁμολογία) in Greek—confession, agreement, profession. To parent yourself is to declare over yourself what the Father says, not what Pharaoh said.

3. CREATE A NEW SCRIPT WITH GOD

This new script must align with kingdom truth:

• I am no longer a slave, but a son (Galatians 4:7).
• I have not been given a spirit of fear (2 Timothy 1:7).
• I am seated with Christ in heavenly places (Ephesians 2:6).
• The blessing of Abraham is mine (Galatians 3:14).
• I lack no good thing (Psalm 34:10).

Write these down. Make them your inner soundtrack.

4. REHEARSE THE NEW SCENES

Neuroplasticity confirms what faith has long known: the brain rewires through repetition and experience. As you visualise and rehearse the life aligned with truth, your nervous system begins to believe it.

Let the Holy Spirit direct the new story, not your trauma. Visualise yourself walking in wholeness, praying with boldness, earning with joy, parenting with peace, loving without fear.

5. SET BOUNDARIES WITH THOSE WHO CLING TO THE OLD YOU

The moment you walk in truth, you become a mirror to others still stuck in the script. They may mock, guilt, or attempt to gaslight you.

“Isn’t this the carpenter’s son?” – Matthew 13:55

They will try to pull you back into the familiar role. Don’t go. Love them, but don’t re-enter their prison just because they feel safe with you inside it.

SCRIPTURAL PATTERNS OF INNER RE-PARENTING

• Moses had to unlearn 40 years of Pharaoh’s palace to become Israel’s deliverer.
• The Israelites had to unlearn a slavery identity before they could posses the promised land.
• Gideon called himself the weakest, but God called him “mighty man of valour” (Judges 6:12).
• Jesus received the Father’s affirmation before he ever performed: “This is my Son, in whom I am well pleased” (Matthew 3:17).

You too must let go of Egypt’s parenting and receive heaven’s affirmation.

It is one thing to come out of Egypt (i.e. the world), it is another thing entirely to get Egypt (the slavery mentality) out of you.

A DEVOTIONAL PRAYER

Father,

I bring before You the child I once was—wounded, afraid, confused, and labelled. I surrender every word that has bound me, every memory that has framed me, and every false belief that has governed me. I ask You now: re-parent me in Your truth. Teach me to hear Your voice louder than Pharaoh’s. Teach me to speak truth over myself and to nurture the child within with grace, discipline, and love. I refuse to live by an inherited script of shame and survival. I choose now to write a new story with You—one of freedom, favour, and faith.

Amen.

MEMORY VERSE

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
– Romans 12:2 (ESV)

QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION

1. What identity or label were you given in childhood that still shapes your decisions today?
2. Can you recognise specific beliefs or “scripts” you act out without questioning?
3. What does it look like, practically, for you to re-parent your inner child this week?
4. Which Scriptures most confront the lies you’ve believed about yourself?
5. Who do you need to forgive—yourself, or others—for the script they passed down?

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You are not cursed—you were simply conditioned. And now, by faith, you are being re-authored. Let the Spirit of God parent you, guide you, and raise you into the adult heaven had in mind all along.

You are the writer now. Pick up the pen.

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